Poisons That Destroy Intimacy and Nutrients That Nourish It

by Robert Cinque

Poisons

Self pity: the dramatization of abandonment and victimhood. The belief in powerlessness and that everything happens to me, not in me, with me and because of me. The collapse from love into prisons of mind which equate baseless assumptions with factual evidence. Self pity is a self fulfilling prophecy and guarantees unresolvable conflict

Complaint: legitimate dissatisfaction that never grew into positive action for healthy change. Complaint is the evidence of living in a default ego mode in which one feels both terrified and powerless.

Blame: the demon child of complaint. The irresponsible transfer of ownership from self to other. Blame is the last refuge of the coward who refuses to accept the consequences of his own choices and actions.

Contempt: Decayed, rotten anger and hatred that never saw the light of day. Dissatisfaction that never grew into healthy change. Contempt is the vicious scorn heaped upon those to whom we gave our power and who got the blame for it.

Condemnation: the false assumption of superiority. The belief that I’m Ok, you’re not Ok. Condemnation is the evidence that I allow others to control my life.

Criticalness: the willingness to focus only on the faults of others as a way of avoiding one’s own faults

Withdrawal: the refusal to love. The silent punishment meted out to those who disobey my decrees and assert their own freedom. Withdrawal is the final nail in the coffin, the brutal ending of what was once a thriving love affair.

Nutrients

Self Ownership: The willingness to be responsible for what I say and do. The refusal to avoid the consequences of my actions. The understanding that my state is up to me, not circumstances, conditions or other people.

Alignment: Coherence between personal and infinite life. The return to innocence and purity, not by disciplines but by Noticing what is always already true. Alignment is the result of understanding that infinite intelligence exists on all scales, that it is my actual nature, not my hypothecated one. It is my self already, now. It does not become enlightened; It already is light. Enlightenment is, therefore, our actual state now. It is not something that is added to us at the end of a journey; It is our condition, now. That means that we can’t become who we are precisely because we already are it. What happens is that we un-become who we are not. This reveals the always existing alignment that had become obstructed by false assumptions and mistaken perceptions.

Acknowledgement: The Act of affirming and embracing what Exists. Acknowledgement is the result of the courage it takes to face one’s own limited contexts and false assumptions. By Bravely Acknowledging the Truth of Life, all the false identities dissolve on their own and do not require effortful struggle.

Recognition: The mature fruit of Acknowledgement. The stabilized understanding that infinite intelligence is Alive and Well as all things.

Empathy: Love in the form of a willingness to stand in another’s shoes. Empathy is food for the soul of another

Empowerment: one of the immediate results of empathy. Empowerment is the energy that comes from digesting love.

Demand: the requirement that life places upon us to face the Mystery and Wonder and Ordeal of Existence. Demand is the practice of not flinching, not avoiding the blood, sweat and tears of human life.

Enjoyment: The radical disposition of freedom. Enjoyment is the direct result of what happens when Life’s Radiance is unobstructed by our false assumptions and ego identities. In this understanding, the universe can be seen as an expression of Life’s infinite freedom and enjoyment of it’s own Intense Dynamic,

When an individual is willing to be reduced to his or her essential nature and is open to the truth and Glorious Nature of Existence, then that one becomes a Beacon of Light in the world.

It is at this point that an actual relationship begins.

When we Climb the Mountain and Understand the Poisons and the Nutrients, the rest is all downhill.