Meaning Creates Language

Meaning Creates Language 

by robert cinque       

We care about what is meaningful to us. The cat gets hungry and cares about his hunger. He says Meow, you feed him, and a successful communication of meaning through language takes place.

A conversation is an agreement, a contract, to mutually care about each other and their meaning.

A successful conversation is completely determined by how much caring exists.

The Speaker must care enough (about both his message and the Listener) in order to be responsible for communicating his meaning in such a way that is understandable and harmless. The Listener must care (about the Speaker and his message) enough to be responsible for comprehending it, making sure he got it in the way the Speaker intended, and waiting until the Speaker indicates that he is finished speaking before responding.  When that signal is given, the Listener becomes the Speaker and the roles reverse.

When there is not enough caring, communication is impossible. The Listener will interrupt the Speaker or the Speaker will assault the Listener, for example.

When agreeing to have a conversation, both Speaker and Listener agree to be responsible for caring.

The rules of a successful conversation are

1) Listen without interrupting, unless a question must be asked for clarification of the message.  Verify that what you have understood is accurate.  

2) Speak from caring about the message and the Listener and be responsible for getting the message through intact, as you mean it, not as it may be interpreted. Verify that what you said was received accurately.

In this way, both individuals can meet their responsibilities as Speaker and Listener in their agreement to have a conversation, and be guaranteed of a successful outcome.

And, not otherwise.

No matter how much intellect or oratory skills may or may not be present, the success or failure of a converstaion depends entirely upon the level of caring and the amount of responsibility such caring demands.

Robert Cinque

In addition to writing essays like these, Robert Cinque also builds beautiful, affordable and comfortable yurts for homeowners and businesses in the fabulous Skagit County. Throughout the past three decades, his work has included building and installing wood art at local landmarks like the Cascadian Farm Organic Fruitstand in Rockport (WA), the Birdsview Brewery at the foot at “the American Alps” in the Pacific Northwest’s Skagit Valley, and many others. He has worked with visionary architect and organic designer Sunray Kelley for over 20 years on many beautiful projects. Together, they formed Radiant Homes and are actively engaged in the development of the Living Home, the Bioshelter, the no-mortgage, no-permit, food and energy producing home. Their work has been featured on National Geographic, MTV, Better Homes and Gardens, and represents the Greening of Architecture, a movement they consider to be the most important development since the Industrial Revolution. He says: These essays are about “dungeons of mind, the root of suffering, true sanctuary, and the glorious imperative to live intimately with That Which Is Alive As All Things. They are painful, bloody and hard-hitting (the “truth will set you free, but it will piss you off first”). They are designed to destroy what’s false and cultivate what’s real. They are not merely my opinions or philosophy; they are field reports from the underground where the Lie was deconstructed. They are wrecking balls, cosmic insults to vanity and arrogance, bulldozers and firebombs that burn out the tangled underbrush. They are intended to water the Seeds of Life buried under mountains and centuries of false beliefs, inherited “culture” and ego cults, so-called “religions”, including scientism, masquerading as truth. Idols are routinely lampooned and sacred cows are turned into hamburger as quickly as possible. I really don’t mean to offend any one personally. I’m not after them. I’m after the beliefs that are harming them: the Big Lie, the belief in separation from Love and Truth that strangles the heart and creates terrible, unbearable suffering. I love to help create Sanctuary and Shelter. I am a green builder and enjoy showing others how to build a no-mortgage, no-permit bio-shelters that also provide food and energy. shelter@nwlink.com cell 360-393-5663

One thought on “Meaning Creates Language

  • January 17, 2020 at 9:41 pm
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    If only people would do this
    Suppose there is always hope

    I agree with you..

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